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Top 10 Photo Blunders
The following no-nonsense list was compiled from interviews with long-time online daters and the business executives and support staff of several major online dating services. What's the bottom line? The single most important part of online dating is how you handle the simple act of representing yourself with photos.
1. Not posting a photo at all. Not posting a photo at all is arguably
the most serious mistake. You must have something to hide if your
photo is a blank space. Trust us, everyone thinks so. And that jaundiced
phrase "ask for my picture" is sounding pretty lame these
days. Describing yourself in words is lame, too.
a photo that is more than 2 or 3 years old. If you are too much
older than your picture you've committed the sin of "age shaving"
online. This is guaranteed to put your relationship on shaky ground
from the start and is usually an instant "deal breaker."
Ever wonder why that second date never happens? It's a sure bet they
won't tell you if you "age shaved".
that little figure in the background you? If your image is so
small you can't be seen clearly you must be butt-ugly or have something
to hide. Lame. Get a real photo of yourself. We've already seen Yosemite
- in person.
by using a photo with a strange or goofy expression. If the only
fairly close up, kinda' clear picture you have of yourself looks like
you just smelled something unmentionable, it's time for a better photo.
Even prose by Shakespeare in your profile can't overcome the awful
first impression created by a drunken, or worse, that dreaded "deer
in headlights" look.
5. Is that you - or is the one on the left you - or is the one in the
background you? Why are you kissing that strange-looking man on
the cheek? Who is that man with his hand on your ass? Are those your
parents? If we have to guess or if you have to explain it in your
profile text, it's too late. Try to avoid posting a photo with more
people than you in it, especially if the other person(s) are of the
opposite sex, even if you think the photo of you is good.
off those sunglasses. Going incognito are we? Playing Joe Hollywood?
Wearing sunglasses just suggests you have something to hide.
at the party, head tossed back in laughter, beer in hand, having
so much fun you make us puke. It's not that we believe that you get
drunk and party 5 nights a week, but why should we take the chance.
8. Trusting your mother or brother to tell you which photos you should
use online. Your mother thinks even your goofiest picture looks
absolutely charming. Your view is biased, too. That favorite photo
that you think looks really, really good might not. Instead, ask someone
of the opposite sex who you find attractive which photos you should
use online. That's the single most accurate measure of your photo's
effectiveness. Why? Because when you post your photo online, you'll
be impressing just such people - or not impressing them - a thousand
times a day.
too much skin. This will get you just the wrong responses if you're
a woman, and usually no responses at all if you're a man. There are
exceptions, but not many.
10. Using your crappy snapshots because you think using professional
photos is "cheating". Using professional quality photos
is the first thing online dating experts suggest you do if you take
your online dating seriously. You certainly don't trust your health,
your vision or even your haircut to an amateur. So why trust your
online image to one? Making a lasting first impression with professional
photos is a sensible way to put your best face forward.
ONLINE DATING PHOTO EVOLUTION