4 Savjeti za First Date

Prvo datumi imaju potencijal promijeniti naše živote. Shvatio sam da, ako ste trenutno priprema za jedan, I vjerojatno upravo napravio svoj stomak flip, i za to se izvinjavam! The best way to enter into a first date is to relax, so forget the whole life-changing aspect. Umjesto toga, hajde da se fokusiraju na razgovor.

Toliko puta, mislimo prvog datuma kao što je razgovor za posao, što svakako postavlja svečanu raspoloženju nije u potpunosti pogoduje za zabavu, a najčešći reakcija na razgovor za posao nervoza, pravo? When we’re nervous, ponekad zaboravljamo najkritičnijih konverzacijske alat kao naš odlaganje: slušanje.

Ovo možda zvuči jednostavno, but it’s amazingly sparse in today’s world. We focus so much on preparing our witty remarks or perfect delivery that we neglect to fully tune in to the other person. I’ve heard a lot of great one-liners, i ja volim smiješno momci, ali šta je tip koji je zapravo sluša ono što kažete? Dobro, he’s a keeper. If he’s funny, takođe, onda ste ozbiljno pogodio jackpot.

Muškarci žele ženu koja sluša, suviše! I’m not talking about just hearing the words he says, although that is a critical first step. Actually listen to his words, njegovom tonu, njegov jezik tijela, and his actions. Women tend to pay attention to these things very well, ali na prvom datumima, smo često se toliko fokusirani na sebe (naše dress, kosu, hrane u zube, Tko zemalja, i ruž reapplications) da smo zaboravili zašto smo stvarno postoji.

Listening to your date is practically guaranteed to help the conversation flow. Bad listening skills, Tip A ličnosti? Here’s a formula:

1. Pitanje: Ako je vaš datum govori o poslu dužnosti ili osobne interese koji se ne razumiju, ili naloga nešto isključili meni nikada niste čuli za, don’t feel silly asking questions. Ask away. People love to explain what they know a lot about, a vi ste upravo pretvorio u svoj datum stručnjak, whether that’s on car engines or sushi. Who doesn’t want to feel like an expert? We tend to talk so much more about our passions, tako da Upoznajemo tu osobu na smislen način.

2. Pauza: Allowing your date time to finish his or her thoughts is pretty standard – and can prove difficult when you’re excited or nervous – but taking it one step farther can really provide information. One great way of doing this is taking a sip of water as the person is finishing a thought. It gives people a silence to fill, i mnogo puta ste dobili znati više o njima od ovih inkluzije.

3. Suosjećaju: Možda je upravo završio joj diplomu, or perhaps he’s up for a promotion. Think of how you would feel in that position. You would probably want to talk about your favorite classes, ono što želite učiniti u polju, or the projects you’ve worked on to climb the ladder. Now you have great questions. This is an occasion where selfish thinking can prove very helpful in learning about someone else.

4. Ponavljanje: Ako si toliko zabrinut i nervozan da imate brokule zaglavi u zube i jednostavno nisu u mogućnosti da se fokusira na detalje svog posla dok je osjećaj slepo za kompaktne u torbicu, at the very least try to pick up on key words. Did he say data entry? Now you can ask questions about what kind of data, ako je to nešto što on voli, or if he uses mass amounts of caffeine to survive it. But honestly, zaboraviti kompaktni kada možete, i pitaj ga!

Naravno, postavljanje pitanja o vašem datumu ljubimac(s) is recommended. Not an animal lover? Check, molim. I say this in jest (i nekako ozbiljno.)

Uživajte u svom prvom sastanku, opustiti, i zabavite se! Just remember to listen. Your life may in fact change, ali hej, nema pritiska.


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