Can Successful Women Really Have it All?
…Or are today’s “overachievers” undermining their relationships?
“You’ve come a long way, baby,” states a popular commercial applauding the evolution of today’s woman. And indeed we have arrived!
Women have sojourned from a day and age when we couldn’t even cast votes, to political powerhouses to be reckoned with.
Even in the corporate arena, many of us have ascended corporate ladders to leadership roles, managing massive department budgets and subordinates that are often men.
Add to this the fact that we often own our own homes, earn our own money, and have our own opinions. And in the words of singing group, Destiny’s Child, “I depend on me, if I want it.”
Bravo divas! Take a bow.
But, here’s the trade off…
Today’s successful woman may be winning in business while losing in love.
And here’s why.
Far too many of us fail to recognize that many of the qualities that allow us to dominate the boardroom, can cause detriment in the bedroom. Hello?!
In the battle of the sexes, are we winning the battle but losing the war?
Or, in the words of Dr. Phil, “How’s that workin’ for ya’?”
Here are four common scenarios that illustrate how we sometimes emasculate our men without realizing it.
Perhaps you’re guilty of a few. Read on and find out.
THE “IT’S MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY” MENTALITY— Sure, positions of authority in the work world allow us to dictate our desires to those whom we hire and pay for their services. But, personal relationships are different. They’re supposed to be partnerships where both parties’ needs and feelings are accommodated, not roles of parenting or rescue.
POSSESSION OBSESSION—God bless the child that’s got his own. And some of us never fail to let our mates know that our material possessions are the byproducts of our success and belong exclusively to us, particularly in the heat of an argument. “My house, my car, my money.” My word!
“I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR” SYNDROME—From having the ability to make our own money and provide for our own well being, to fertility and adoption options that can X men out of the daily equation of life, some of us are giving the message that men are dispensable in our words and actions.
TAKING BIG STANDS ON SMALL ISSUES—Waging wars with words gives some women a feeling of power and importance, while leaving men rebellious and resistant to change.
Strong is not always wrong.
But balance is often better.
Can women have it all?
Sure, but somebody’s gotta’ pay the tab— which calls for a little give and take and the same negotiating skills savvy sisters employ from 9 to 5. After all, as Billy Dee William tells Diana Ross in the movie Mahogany, “Success without someone to share it with means nothin’!”