No ke aha la Men Love Heartless Queen nalo meli
Eia He ka launa pū paena, a me ka ka launa pū kahua no Ka Hānai Ā Huhu ipo, aole i emi iho. So can we talk for just a minute about female dogs? And I mean “wahine'īlio” ma ka loa euphemistic ano, e like me ka mea pili ole i ka canines, but their human species counterpart that gives female dogs their bad name. But because this is a SFW site and in an effort to give back to female dogs the respect and love they deserve—let’s talk instead about Heartless Queen Bees (a HQBs) a me na kanaka e aloha aku ia lakou, a he aha ka mea e aʻo mai ia lakou e hana i ko makou mau kini maikai.
Manawa, a me ka manawa hou, I ua mua-lima hoike i ai i ka kŰia o “kiʻi kanaka i aloha HQB”. It’s really a marvel to behold—a caring, keia ano-naʻau, aku nei, a me ka lokomaikaʻi kanaka i mea e mau loa ia, ma o ka oihana o ke anuenue hope no ka mea, o kona HQB; and he seems to also love every minute of responding to her demands and bearing the brunt of her indiscriminate disdain. But these relationships are also some of the best I’ve seen in terms of longevity; a pela no hoi, I Ua ho oholo, ma ka olelo o kekahi degere o ka pili pomaikai.
No laila, i ka mea e hiki makou, e like me decent, mai HQBs noʻonoʻo wahine aʻo ia,ʻo ae malama i ke ano o na kanaka a pau a lakou mea e loaa ole pilikia Kaʻahumanu, a me ka malama ana i?
1) HQBs i ka ikaika pono o ka wahine paha,
HQBs know who they are and what they want. They know what they bring to the table and they are interesting because their interests are their own and they may be unique from their partner’s interests. It is boring to date yourself, a ua kii HQBs i keia mai.
2) HQBs ua kauoha o ko lakou ao
An HQB manao e loaa kauoha o ke ao nei a puni ia (paha oia maoli hana paha, aole). This quality provides a subconscious boost to her partner’s ego—if he has some control over making her happy, a ua i ka mana hoʻomalu ma luna o “The World”, oia i hooponopono o “The World” by proxy. It’s that whole “ina A = B a me B = C, alaila A = C” thing. How does this translate into a useful tip? Decent, thoughtful people like you and me tend to not be very assertive with our actions and communication. Being assertive is much different than being aggressive, oia no ke kumu o M.O. o ko oukou awelika HQB, a me ka mea i hāʻawi mai iā ia i ka maʻi, loaʻa, tenuous mana o “The World”. But being more assertive will yield a greater command of your world, without the otherwise negative results of aggression. One example of this is simply to state what you want and why it makes sense from your perspective, Lahaina ka demeaning, pela pinepine condescending huhu lakou i ka hana ana i like noi ma HQBs.
3) Ka loa-Popular a ai, “Kanaka Like ka FIRST”!
Ehia nui ka launa pū 'atikala a me na puke hoi oe heluhelu e he mea laʻa i kekahi mau mana o ke kumu o manaʻo e na kanaka makemake ai e imua me ka hana nui loa ia, pela lakou i haha Oiai he hana ia lakou e hiki ia lakou ke lanakila mai la ka hakaka ana? kanaka, iho, will speak of finding the more elusive woman more attractive than the one who is an always-available open book. Sometimes elusiveness manifests as—how should I say—being a little stingy with expressing any kind of positive emotion or feedback (oia no kahi HQBs hele ana ma). Some men can’t resist the challenge of trying to illicit any kind of pleasant response from an HQB and so she becomes an object of great interest.
Pehea la oukou i (hou, e like me ka mea decent, noʻonoʻo wahine oe, ua) huli oe ia oe iho i ka nui o ka hana nui loa ia? This can easily become the disingenuous game-playing that books like “The na Paio” (Fein, a me Schneider) a pau, which may not work for everyone and may leave you ill-feeling and confused about what to say and when. ma kahi, build up your life to be genuinely full and exciting—making you a true challenge to nail down a date with. Not only will it check off that whole “he hana nui loa ia” ke kaila i pela ungracefully characterizes HQBs (i na kanaka hana ana pela i uʻi), aka, i kou la e haha i nui aku kuaiia i ka wa ia oe hulina i kekahi wahi e pana aku au i ko oukou pono waiwai manawa me ia.
4) No pāʻani
Laila hele mai kekahi manawa i ka wa kanaka hooki i pane koke e koho koke ihola nō nā pāʻani-ina ka mea, ma ka pono o ka poe he uuku oi oʻo, or the relationship itself having grown beyond its initial flirtation. Perhaps this tip can be at least partially credited with the whole “longevity” anomaly presented by HQB/Nice Guy relationships. HQBs say what they want, and when they want it. There are few games and intangibles in dealing with an HQB, and many men find this refreshing. This ties in elements from a couple of previous tips—in being straightforward with your communication (i.e. he assertive), a loa ole i ka mea a oukou i makemake mai ko oukou hoa, ina oia Ka ole ka hoʻolako 'ia ia mea, oe hulina imua o ka ka hakaka ana e hiki ia ia e paha nanea hehi aku la e halawai, no oukou Fashion no ka ike, a me ia e makau i konaʻana, e lilo make hewa.
No laila,, Keia ano Kimi-e naau, a me kēia mau kōkua i ka naau, a malia o makou ke koi ae i kekahi wahi ko Salisbury mau puu o ka Nice Guy makeke no makou!