4 Konsèy pou yon dat premye

dat Premye gen potansyèl la yo chanje lavi nou. Mwen reyalize ke si w ap kounye a prepare pou yon, Mwen pwobableman jis te fè baskile vant ou, e pou sa Mwen regrete! The best way to enter into a first date is to relax, so forget the whole life-changing aspect. Olye de sa, kite a konsantre sou konvèsasyon an.

Se konsa, anpil fwa, nou panse de dat premye tankou entèvyou travay, ki sètènman kouche yon atitid solanèl pa totalman fezab pou plezi, ak reyaksyon ki pi komen nan yon entèvyou travay se sote, dwat? When we’re nervous, pafwa nou bliye zouti ki pi kritik konvèsasyon kòm jete nou an: koute.

Sa a ta ka son senp, but it’s amazingly sparse in today’s world. We focus so much on preparing our witty remarks or perfect delivery that we neglect to fully tune in to the other person. I’ve heard a lot of great one-liners, e mwen renmen mesye komik, men sa ki sou nèg la ki aktyèlman koute sa ou di? Oke, he’s a keeper. If he’s funny, tou, Lè sa a, ou te seryezman frape po la.

Gason vle yon fanm ki koute, twò! I’m not talking about just hearing the words he says, although that is a critical first step. Actually listen to his words, ton l ', lang kò l ', and his actions. Women tend to pay attention to these things very well, men sou dat premye, nou souvan jwenn se konsa konsantre sou tèt nou (rad nou an, cheve nou, manje nan dan nou an, ki peye, ak Lipstick reapplications) ke nou bliye poukisa nou ap reyèlman gen.

Listening to your date is practically guaranteed to help the conversation flow. Bad listening skills, Tape Yon pèsonalite? Here’s a formula:

1. Kesyon: Si chita pale dat ou sou devwa djòb oswa enterè pèsonèl ke ou pa konprann, oswa lòd yon bagay nan meni an ou pa janm te tande pale de, don’t feel silly asking questions. Ask away. People love to explain what they know a lot about, epi ou te jis vire dat ou a nan yon ekspè, whether that’s on car engines or sushi. Who doesn’t want to feel like an expert? We tend to talk so much more about our passions, se konsa w ap vin konnen moun sa a nan yon fason siyifikatif.

2. Pòz: Allowing your date time to finish his or her thoughts is pretty standard – and can prove difficult when you’re excited or nervous – but taking it one step farther can really provide information. One great way of doing this is taking a sip of water as the person is finishing a thought. It gives people a silence to fill, ak anpil fwa ou jwenn yo konnen plis bagay sou yo soti nan enklizyon sa yo.

3. anpati: Petèt li jis fini degre li, or perhaps he’s up for a promotion. Think of how you would feel in that position. You would probably want to talk about your favorite classes, sa ou vle fè nan jaden an, or the projects you’ve worked on to climb the ladder. Now you have great questions. This is an occasion where selfish thinking can prove very helpful in learning about someone else.

4. repete: Si w ap se konsa konsène ak sistèm nève ki di ou gen bwokoli kole nan dan ou ak jis yo pa kapab konsantre sou detay yo nan travay li pandan y ap santi je fèmen pou kontra enfòmèl ant nan nan sak ou, at the very least try to pick up on key words. Did he say data entry? Now you can ask questions about what kind of data, si sa a se yon bagay li renmen l ', or if he uses mass amounts of caffeine to survive it. But honestly, bliye kontra enfòmèl ant a lè ou kapab, ak jis mande l '!

Natirèlman, poze kesyon sou bèt kay dat ou a(s) is recommended. Not an animal lover? Check, tanpri. I say this in jest (ak sòt de oserye.)

Jwi dat premye fwa ou, detann, ak pran plezi! Just remember to listen. Your life may in fact change, men hey, pa gen okenn presyon.


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