5 Nzọụkwụ na Imeri Mmekọrịta Nkwurịta Okwu mgbochi
Di na nwunye-apụghị izere ezere na-ezute nkwurịta okwu hiccups n'ụzọ, ma ha na-ọhụrụ akpa ma ọ bụ ememe iri afọ ọnụ. These missteps are difficult to maneuver and require conscious efforts from both partners. Remembering the following tips will prove helpful in those eventual disagreements:
1. Zere nkịtị ọgwụgwọ: Women na ndị ikom abụọ bụ ndị ikpe mara nke a tactic, and it’s incredibly dangerous and destructive. Shutting down is essentially shutting your partner out, and that’s not beneficial to addressing the real issues at hand. As hard as it may seem, na-eji okwu gị na-egosi mmetụta gị, and don’t be afraid to get specific. Cheta, na ezi onye na-aga na-arụ ọrụ gị na mmekọrịta nsogbu, iji mmetụta gị dị ka eji megide gị.
2. Emela echiche: Yiri nkịtị ọgwụgwọ, echiche na-atụ ọzọ nke na-ahapụ onye gị na uche si, and it’s simply not fair to either person. You may assume that his short responses mean he’s lost interest, but he may just have a lot going on at work. If you don’t ask and rely instead on your imagination, ị na-adịghị na-enweta eziokwu, na ị na ikekwe nnọọ ka onwe gị elu maka ibu esemokwu na ọgwụgwụ.
3. Otito ezi àgwà: Ọ bụrụ na ị na-eche dị ka onye gị na-adịghị na-egosi na ị dị ka ukwuu n'anya dị ka tupu, try bringing it up in a complimentary way through suggestion. “I really love your hugs,"Na, "M na-atụ uche gị n'isi ụtụtụ ozi ederede,” are both non-threatening examples of encouraging the actions you desire. Ụzọ a, ị ga-esi gị mgbe gafee na ihe ọ bụla accusatory asụsụ.
4. Nwere mmetụta gị: Ndị ikom na ndị inyom na-ma n'ụzọ mmetụta uche, but they tend to show those emotions in completely different ways. A woman may cry, and a man may fume. Both are valid emotional responses, and both belong to the person who feels them. Rather than telling your partner, "I mere ị na-eche nzuzu,"Nke bụ ihe accusatory na nkwupụta, kọwaa otú obi dị gị a possessive ụda, na-enye nkọwa.
Ọmụmaatụ, "Echere m na nzuzu mgbe ị mere ndị ogbi keisi ocha egwuregwu" bụ obere na-esekarị okwu karịa, “you always make me feel stupid.” The first statement also gives your partner a chance to explain himself and lets him know the real source of the issue.
5. Nọrọ mma: Nke a bụ a toughie, Ama m! It’s so easy to get angry or say things you don’t mean. Do your best to stay positive and work toward resolving the issue healthily. Chọpụta, things are going to blow up sometimes. That’s a normal part of two people sharing their lives together. Just remember to stay mindful of the reasons you’re together in the first place, na-etinye na-elekwasị anya na ịnọgide na-enwe na nkekọ.