5 Njira Kuthetsa Ubwenzi Kulankhulana Zopinga
Okwatirana amakumana nazo kulankhulana hiccups m'njira, ngati iwo kumene chibwenzi kapena chikondwerero zaka pamodzi. These missteps are difficult to maneuver and require conscious efforts from both partners. Remembering the following tips will prove helpful in those eventual disagreements:
1. Pewani chete mankhwala: Amai ndi abambo onse ali olakwa za njira, and it’s incredibly dangerous and destructive. Shutting down is essentially shutting your partner out, and that’s not beneficial to addressing the real issues at hand. As hard as it may seem, ntchito mawu anu kusonyeza chisoni chanu, and don’t be afraid to get specific. Kumbukirani, munthu woyenera ati ntchito nanu pa ubwenzi mavuto, ntchito maganizo anu monga yolimbanirana inu.
2. Musangoganizira: Mofanana ndi chete mankhwala, mfundo ndi chitsanzo china kusiya mnzanuyo maganizo a kunja, and it’s simply not fair to either person. You may assume that his short responses mean he’s lost interest, but he may just have a lot going on at work. If you don’t ask and rely instead on your imagination, inu musati kupeza choonadi, ndipo inu ndithu mwina anapereka nokha tsoka lalikulu mfundo pamapeto.
3. Kuthekera bwino makhalidwe: Ngati mukuona ngati mnzanuyo ndi kuwonetsa inu mochuluka monga chikondi pamaso, try bringing it up in a complimentary way through suggestion. “I really love your hugs,"Ndi, "Ine kuphonya wanu m'mawa mauthenga,” are both non-threatening examples of encouraging the actions you desire. Tiyeni uku, anu amvetse iliyonse accusatory chinenero.
4. Yawoyawo mukumvera: Amuna ndi akazi m'maganizo, but they tend to show those emotions in completely different ways. A woman may cry, and a man may fume. Both are valid emotional responses, and both belong to the person who feels them. Rather than telling your partner, "Mudawayesa mukuona opusa,"Limene ndi accusatory mawu, kufotokoza maganizo anu mwa odzikundikira kamvekedwe, ndi kupereka malongosoledwe.
Mwachitsanzo, "Ine ndinachita zopusa pamene inu munapanga wosayankhula tsitsi nthabwala" sichidziwika kukangana kuposa, “you always make me feel stupid.” The first statement also gives your partner a chance to explain himself and lets him know the real source of the issue.
5. Khalani zabwino: Ichi ndi toughie, Ndikudziwa! It’s so easy to get angry or say things you don’t mean. Do your best to stay positive and work toward resolving the issue healthily. Zedi, things are going to blow up sometimes. That’s a normal part of two people sharing their lives together. Just remember to stay mindful of the reasons you’re together in the first place, ndi kuika chidwi pa kukhalabe kuti chomangira.