Romance, Kumverera Kapena Chinachake Ife Kodi?

Ngati inu yang'anani mawu 'chibwenzi' mu dikishonare ndi m'gulu onse ndi omwe ndi verebu! Kotero ndendende ndi chibwenzi?

Ndikukumbukira ku nthawi pamene ndinali kwenikweni akukumana chibwenzi, Ndinali linalake wakale ndi ife tinkayesetsa 'kupulumutsa' wathu akufa ubwenzi, kotero ife tinaganiza kuti ndi 'tsiku usiku' mlungu uliwonse. Palibe cholakwika ndi lingaliro, Ndipotu ndi mlungu 'tsiku usiku' ndi chinachake chimene ine mwakhama kulimbikitsa wanga makasitomala kuchita, Koma chimene ine ndikukumbukira za imeneyi ubwenzi ndi kuti zinalibe kanthu angati masiku ife anapitiriza, ndi chibwenzi sunabwererenso! Zofuna zathu anasintha. Ndipo chotero anapanga alibiretu kusiyana zimene choncho konse kangati tinakhala patebulo Chrixitu pa chibwenzi reader, panali adakali palibe chibwenzi kwa ife mu ichi makamaka vuto.

Choncho, izi zikusonyeza kuti simungathe kukakamiza chibwenzi.

Zimasonyeza kuti mungachite zinthu pamodzi, limene anthu ambiri amawatcha 'chikondi', Koma ngati mmene kumbuyo zochita zili palibe ndiye silimatsimikiziradi kumva chikondi pa zonse, Ndipotu iwo amamva ngati kukoka mano. Kodi munayamba anakhala ndi munthu munali pa chibwenzi pa chakudya kuchokera ndipo sindinali ndikumverera pakali? Nkhani kungokhala pamodzimodzi ndi womangika, kapena mwina panali mavuto ndi zoipa kumverera mu mlengalenga. Pamene ndi choncho izo ziribe kanthu momwe chikondi Kukhazikitsa kapena ntchito mukuchita, sizikuthandiza zofanana kwa 'chibwenzi'. Pa flipside ine angathe kuganiza za nthawi ndachita zinthu ndi munthu kuti sanali chikondi bi, ngati kuyenda m'matope wathu wellies mu mvula, koma adakali anamva zachikondi, chifukwa cha maganizo ndi yokhudza ine kuuza munthu.

Kodi anthu okwatirana amene mukuona pamodzi kuti bwino anali kukangana - mmene chikondi yawo madzulo kukhala? Mwina akhoza kupulumutsidwa, Ngati mmodzi wa iwo anachita chinthu chikondi chimene anathyola ayezi ndi anakwiya nacho kukonda kachiwiri. Ndipotu chiyani iwo amanena kuti kudzipangitsa mmwamba kugonana kungakhale wotentha? (Wanga akazi makasitomala ine amavomereza kupita kwa ubale kumene kukonda ndi chilakolako zikugwilizana, osati kutentha ndi kuzizira).

Monga mkazi ine vouch chifukwa chakuti pamene munthu kumatenga nthawi kuti a chinachake chikondi chake mkazi izo kwambiri, ngakhale mwina anati mkazi yekha chibwenzi ndi munthu anati, ndipo iye ankakhulupirira kuti za iye komabe, monzama kulankhula ife akazi kuzindikira chikondi manja. Komabe ngakhale zochita ndi pamwamba, zapathengo chikondi manja akhoza kukhala wovuta kwambiri, choncho kumene ndi mzere?

Kodi chibwenzi kumatanthauza inu? Kodi yoyenera nthawi zonse ndipo ngati ndi ayi bwanji? Kodi ntchito pochiritsa ndi kukonza ubwenzi kapena ignite chikondi ndi chilakolako? Izi ndi chidwi mafunso kufunsa.

Ndi ndithudi mkangano wa mbali ziwiri. Panokha ine amati chibwenzi ndi kumverera, sipangakhalenso obwera chifukwa chinthu kapena zingapo. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwamuna wanga inakonza zabwino tsiku ife, anapita ku khama kuti ine, kapena amasonyeza kunyumba ndi gulu lalikulu la maluwa ine, zimenezi zimachititsa chikondi ndi Poyankha m'kati mwanga. Ine ndikumverera njira inayake ndinenso wolawana kuti naye. Ine ndikuyamikira zimene iye wachita ndipo ine kumverera bwino ndi kumwetulira. Izi, panthawi yake, kuti amuthandize bwino.

Koma kodi chidwi kwambiri kwa ine kuti akazi ndi mphamvu analenga kukopeka tokha onse tokha! Ndikutanthauza ndi ichi kuti pamene mkazi amaphunzira basi 'kukhala' mwa iye zofewa, chosalimba mphamvu, iye amamva chikondi, ngakhale palibe munthu pano. Kumva chingapezeke ntchito lotentha kusamba, makandulo, ndi aromatherapy kutikita minofu, kuvala zovala zokongola ndi ena ambiri m'njira. Ndiye kodi izi amuna superfluous? Osa, ndithu zosiyana, Ine amati pamene mkazi pansi ndi zinachitikira kumverera zachikondi, chachikulu danga kuti iye amayamikira mtima wake munthu pamene iye amachita zinthu zimene awonjezera ku kumverera.

Ngati inu mukudziwa wanga kufika kwa chibwenzi mudzadziwa kuti ine ndikukhulupirira mu chachimuna ndi chachikazi mphamvu maudindo mkati ubwenzi, kwa chachikazi mkazi ine zikusonyeza 'kuchita' chikondi zinthu kuti munthu, Koma kulowa chibwenzi moti danga la 'chifundo' ndi 'kukhala', ndiyeno akuuza naye munthu akhoza kukhala wokongola. Likudandaulira ake kufunika chachimuna ndi kusangalatsa mkazi wake ndi kuchita zinthu kuti iye osangalala. Ngati ndinu mkazi ndipo mukufuna zambiri chibwenzi ubale wanu Ndikupangira kuyesa izi. Ndipo ngati ndinu munthu ndi mukufuna 'kupambana' mkazi muli pachibwenzi, kapena kubweretsa chilakolako ku ubale ndinu panopa, Ine zikusonyeza 'kuchita' chinachake chikondi kwa iye, ndi mzimu weniweni chibwenzi kumbuyo zochita!

Sangalalani.

Julie.


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