Aisea lagomeli Queen tagata Alofa Heartless

o se nofoaga o tafaoga faamasani lenei, ma se nofoaga o tafaoga faamasani mo alolofa fagafao, e le itiiti ifo. So can we talk for just a minute about female dogs? And I mean “maile fafine” i le uiga sili ona euphemistic, e pei ona faasino i ai le e canines, but their human species counterpart that gives female dogs their bad name. But because this is a SFW site and in an effort to give back to female dogs the respect and love they deserve—let’s talk instead about Heartless Queen Bees (po HQBs) ma le tagata e alofa ia i latou, ma le mea o loo i ai e aoao mai ia i latou e faia o tatou lava sootaga sili.

Taimi ma lea taimi, Sa ou i ai molimau muamua-lima i le aafiaga matautia o “alofa alii manaia HQB”. It’s really a marvel to behold—a caring, ituaiga loto, tagata faaaloalo ma agalelei e foliga mai e i ai pea le tulaga o le punou i tua mo lona HQB; and he seems to also love every minute of responding to her demands and bearing the brunt of her indiscriminate disdain. But these relationships are also some of the best I’ve seen in terms of longevity; ma e faapena foi, Ou deduced, i le tulaga o nisi o faailoga o le manuia sootaga.

A la le mea e mafai ona tatou, e pei ona tausaafia, aoao tamaitai magafagafa mai HQBs e tosina ma tausia le ituaiga o tagata ina ia latou foliga mai e leai se faafitauli faatosinaina mai ma le tausia o?

1) HQBs maua se lagona o le faasinomaga malosi

Strong Tamaitai iloagofie

HQBs know who they are and what they want. They know what they bring to the table and they are interesting because their interests are their own and they may be unique from their partner’s interests. It is boring to date yourself, ma ua tofu tagata HQBs lenei mai.

2) HQBs maua faatonuga o lo latou lalolagi

Tamaitai poloaiina

O se HQB foliga mai e le i ai o poloaiga a le lalolagi o loo siomia o ia (pe ia faia moni lava po o le). This quality provides a subconscious boost to her partner’s ego—if he has some control over making her happy, ma ua ia te ia le pule i luga “le Lalolagi”, ia ai le puleaina o “le Lalolagi” by proxy. It’s that whole “pe afai A = B ma le B = F, lea A = F” thing. How does this translate into a useful tip? Decent, thoughtful people like you and me tend to not be very assertive with our actions and communication. Being assertive is much different than being aggressive, o le M.O faavae. o lou HQB tusa ma le mea e tuuina atu i ai maʻi-maua, pulea le mautinoa mo o “le Lalolagi”. But being more assertive will yield a greater command of your world, without the otherwise negative results of aggression. One example of this is simply to state what you want and why it makes sense from your perspective, sans le le faatauaina, na fetalai ifo le ita e masani lava ona faaaogaina i le faia faapena talosaga e HQBs.

3) O le faavavau-lauiloa ma faamaonia, “Tagata e pei o se Lui”!

Tagata pei o se luitau

E faapefea le tele o tafaoga faamasani ai tusiga ma tusi ua e faitau e tuuto atu i nisi o lomiga o le manatu faavae o le fia tagata ina ia tuuina atu i se luitau, ina ia latou lagona faaopoopo faapitoa pe a mafai ona latou manumalo fai luitau? tagata, i latou lava, will speak of finding the more elusive woman more attractive than the one who is an always-available open book. Sometimes elusiveness manifests as—how should I say—being a little stingy with expressing any kind of positive emotion or feedback (lea o le nofoaga lea i le o mai HQBs). Some men can’t resist the challenge of trying to illicit any kind of pleasant response from an HQB and so she becomes an object of great interest.

E faapefea ona outou (toe, o le tausaafia, tamaitai magafagafa o oe o) liliu atu oe lava i le le sili atu o se luitau? This can easily become the disingenuous game-playing that books like “O le Tulafono Faafoe” (Fein ma Schneider) uma, which may not work for everyone and may leave you ill-feeling and confused about what to say and when. Nai lo, build up your life to be genuinely full and exciting—making you a true challenge to nail down a date with. Not only will it check off that whole “ona avea o se luitau” faafetaia e faapea ungracefully faamatalaina HQBs (o le maua o alii ina tosina), ae o lou aso o le a lagona e sili atu le taua pe a ua e faia se taimi e faaalu ai lou taimi manino taua ia te ia.

4) E leai se taaloga

Tamaitai Taaloga taumatemate

E oo mai se taimi o le a tagata le toe tali atu i taumatemate taaloga-pe ua e le mama o latou avea lenei a matutua teisi atu, or the relationship itself having grown beyond its initial flirtation. Perhaps this tip can be at least partially credited with the whole “longevity” anomaly presented by HQB/Nice Guy relationships. HQBs say what they want, and when they want it. There are few games and intangibles in dealing with an HQB, and many men find this refreshing. This ties in elements from a couple of previous tips—in being straightforward with your communication (i.e. le mausalī), ma manino lava i le mea e te manao mai lau paaga pe afai e le o ua uma ona tuuina atu e, ua e tuuina atu se luʻi o le a ia e ono fiafia i le laa i luga e fetaiaʻi ona ua e matua manino ma o le a le fefefe ana taumafaiga o le a avea i le aoga.

O lea la,, Loto-ave ituaiga loto, ma o nei fautuaga i le loto-ma atonu e mafai ona tatou maua a laitiiti ia faasoa tele o le maketi Guy manaia mo i tatou lava!


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