Uluhlu iindlela ukwazi wena kancinci ngcono, ukwenza ukuba 'kancinci luninzi "dateable ngaphezulu
Eyona mpazamo abantu abaninzi benze ebomini babo ukuthandana ungenaye asiyongcamango ilungileyo ngubani na, ngokwabo, zezi. It may seem counterintuitive, kodwa xa bethatha uzama ukufumana iqabane yenye amaxesha yokugxila wena yaye yintoni eyenza ukuba “ikhalane”. Women, ngakumbi kunamadoda, ziyathanda “Ndiyayithanda kukufunayo”-syndrome (mhlawumbi ngenxa kokulibazisa kokulindelekileyo kwinkcubeko ukuba abafazi ebekumele ukuba bhetyebhetye, abo amorphous oswele iimfuno zabo), ekugqibeleni kuzakuphuma kulwalamano enganelisiyo kwaye onganelisekanga okubhetele; thusayo, bachitha ixesha kunye nomsindo omnye umntu ukuba “yatshintsha”, ingathethekiyo.
Enye amazwi endizithandayo uya into enjengale–ngumntu ebekumele ukuba umntu ukwazi yaye ndiyakuthanda, Ukuba awuyazi kwaye ndiyakuthanda? Investing in knowing yourself allows you to know exactly what you bring to the table, kwaye kwenza kube lula kuwe nokunene wenu ukuqonda omnye komnye yaye nom- iimpawu Asizi ukuba sitshintshe kwinkampani yakho okanye iminyaka.
Njengoko kaShelemiya Silverstein ubhala kumbongo wakhe, “imaski”:
Yena ye nolusu blue
Kwaye ngoko ke wa
A khangela blue
ubomi babo bonke ngenxa
Nazi ezinye iindlela bamazi kwaye ndiyakuthanda, ukuze umntu ongomnye, kakhulu!
1. Take Yourself Out
Lo luntsileka uzijikelezise ezahlukeneyo ngeenkalo “self-uncedo” kwiiguru, iincwadi, and women’s groups. People usually think about it in terms of dinner, which can be intimidating and awkward if you have not dined in public alone before. So it can be any significant outing, ixesha elide kangangoko Kuyonwabisa kwaye uyayonwabela into–imovie (Kanye izibane kuhla, akukho mntu swi ohleli yedwa), umdlalo ibhola, okanye mhlawumbi lokuya ngosuku kwindawo entsha.
2. What Do YOU Want To Do Today?
Yiba ixesha ivideo? Stop for a minute and blatantly ask yourself what would make you happy right then and there–uze uye kwenza! This is one of the most simple and effective ways to tune out the noise of life and stop wasting time by being sucked into Facebook or television. It also opens you up to that many more random, gwenxa bomlingo noza, kwaye yokuhlangana ukuba abantu abaninzi kunawe bekuya kuba, thoughtlessly and unconsciously killing time. In the process, uya kufumanisa ukuba akuyomfuneko ukuba umntu kunye wonwabe–unako ukonwaba kunye wabanyamezela ngokuba nenjongo ngenketho zakho.
3. Ask Your Friends
This is kind of an elaboration of the popular Facebook activity asking people to comment to the post with a word that describes the poster. But you can learn about yourself, okanye ubuncinane malunga uluntu cinga neya- wena, by asking your friends how they would describe you. This will help to illuminate the “nina” ukuba okusondeza ihlabathi, and therefore dates. Ingayiyo, kwaye mhlawumbi, this matches with what you believe is your genuine self. But if you are unwittingly perceived as having a different character than what you know is true about you–oku kube yingxaki umtya bengafumenanga, ubudlelwane edidayo.
4. Try New Things
This is kind of the opposite of #2. Instead of treating yourself to something you know you’ll like doing, kwenza into entsha ngokupheleleyo! Never ridden a horse before? Find a company that offers easy trail rides. I wouldn’t advocate doing anything that frightens the pants off of you, kuba–ngeli ukuba ukutsala imihla–your fear may distract from being able to enjoy a new experience. At the end of the day, uya susa omnye amava obomi kunceda ukuchaza wena umdla yakho, kwaye usenokuba enye ubuchule kunye incoko zalatha ukuba siwazise itafile.
Having a confident sense of self is attractive. By cultivating your sense of self, uya kuba ngakumbi, ngaphezulu kuzaliseka umntu uya kuba ukuba okuninzi sisenzela ubudlelwane; kwaye okwangoku, uya kuba mnandi kakhulu ukwazi ukuba wena ukuba zonke.