4 Italolobo fun a First Ọjọ

Akọkọ ọjọ ni o pọju lati yi aye wa. Mo mọ pe ti o ba ti o ba Lọwọlọwọ ngbaradi fun ọkan, Mo ti jasi o kan ṣe rẹ Ìyọnu isipade, ati fun awọn ti mo ti gafara! The best way to enter into a first date is to relax, so forget the whole life-changing aspect. Dipo, jẹ ki ká idojukọ lori awọn ibaraẹnisọrọ.

Ki ọpọlọpọ igba, a ro ti akọkọ ọjọ bi ise ibere ojukoju, eyi ti esan kn a ajọ iṣesi ko šee igbọkanle conducive fun fun, ati awọn julọ wọpọ lenu si a ise ijomitoro ni nervousness, otun? When we’re nervous, ma a gbagbe awọn julọ lominu ni àjọsọrọ ọpa bi wa didanu: gbigbọ.

Eleyi le dun o rọrun, but it’s amazingly sparse in today’s world. We focus so much on preparing our witty remarks or perfect delivery that we neglect to fully tune in to the other person. I’ve heard a lot of great one-liners, ati ki o Mo ni ife funny enia buruku, ṣugbọn ohun ti nipa awọn eniyan ti o si gangan eké si ohun ti o sọ? Daradara, he’s a keeper. If he’s funny, tun, ki o si ti o ba ti sọ isẹ lu jackpot.

Awọn ọkunrin fẹ obinrin kan ti ti o gbọ, ju! I’m not talking about just hearing the words he says, although that is a critical first step. Actually listen to his words, ohun orin rẹ, ara rẹ èdè, and his actions. Women tend to pay attention to these things very well, sugbon lori akọkọ ọjọ, a oftentimes gba ki lojutu lori ara wa (wa imura, wa irun, ounje ni wa eyin, Ti o orilẹ-ede, ati ikunte reapplications) ti a gbagbe idi ti a ba gan nibẹ.

Listening to your date is practically guaranteed to help the conversation flow. Bad listening skills, Tẹ A eniyan? Here’s a formula:

1. Ibeere: Ti o ba ti rẹ ọjọ Kariaye nipa ise ise tabi ti ara ẹni ru ti o ko ye, tabi ibere nkankan pa akojọ ašayan ti o ti sọ kò gbọ ti, don’t feel silly asking questions. Ask away. People love to explain what they know a lot about, ati awọn ti o ti sọ o kan wa ni tan-ọjọ rẹ sinu iwé ohun, whether that’s on car engines or sushi. Who doesn’t want to feel like an expert? We tend to talk so much more about our passions, ki ti o ba si sunmọ ni lati mo wipe eniyan ni a o nilari ona.

2. Sinmi: Allowing your date time to finish his or her thoughts is pretty standard – and can prove difficult when you’re excited or nervous – but taking it one step farther can really provide information. One great way of doing this is taking a sip of water as the person is finishing a thought. It gives people a silence to fill, ati ọpọlọpọ awọn igba ti o gba lati mọ siwaju si nipa wọn lati wọnyi inclusions.

3. Empathize: Boya o kan ti pari rẹ ìyí, or perhaps he’s up for a promotion. Think of how you would feel in that position. You would probably want to talk about your favorite classes, ohun ti o fẹ lati ṣe li oko, or the projects you’ve worked on to climb the ladder. Now you have great questions. This is an occasion where selfish thinking can prove very helpful in learning about someone else.

4. Tun: Ti o ba fiyesi ki o si aifọkanbalẹ ti o ni broccoli di ninu rẹ eyin ati o kan wa ni ko ni anfani si idojukọ lori awọn alaye ti iṣẹ rẹ nigba ti rilara titọ fun awọn iwapọ ninu rẹ apamọwọ, at the very least try to pick up on key words. Did he say data entry? Now you can ask questions about what kind of data, ti o ba ti yi jẹ nkan ti o fẹràn, or if he uses mass amounts of caffeine to survive it. But honestly, gbagbe awọn iwapọ nigba ti o ba le, ati ki o kan beere fun u!

Dajudaju, béèrè ìbéèrè nípa rẹ ọjọ ká ọsin(s) is recommended. Not an animal lover? Check, Jowo. I say this in jest (ki o si too ti isẹ.)

Gbadun rẹ akọkọ ọjọ, sinmi, ati ki o ni fun! Just remember to listen. Your life may in fact change, ṣugbọn hey, ko si titẹ.


Back to Top ↑

© Copyright 2017 Ọjọ mi Pet. Ṣe pẹlu nipa 8celerate isise

Ka siwaju:
Ibaṣepọ – Ti wa ni iwọ Sabotaging ara?

"Mo korira ibaṣepọ" ni a ọrọìwòye mo ti gbọ lati mi obirin oni ibara gbogbo ju igba. Yi odi iwa si ọna ibaṣepọ ...

Close