Kungani Amadoda Love Heartless Queen Bees
Lena indawo dating, futhi indawo dating for abathandi pet, akukho ngaphansi. So can we talk for just a minute about female dogs? And I mean “dogs female” ngomqondo euphemistic kakhulu, njengoba uyalandisa hhayi canines, but their human species counterpart that gives female dogs their bad name. But because this is a SFW site and in an effort to give back to female dogs the respect and love they deserve—let’s talk instead about Heartless Queen Bees (noma HQBs) futhi amadoda babathande, futhi yini kukhona esingakufunda kuzo ubuhlobo bethu siqu kangcono.
Siphindaphinda, Bengilokhu lokuqala isandla ubufakazi lo mkhuba “guy nice uthanda HQB”. It’s really a marvel to behold—a caring, uhlobo ezithandayo, Umuntu nomusa nokuphana obonakala njalo isikhundla ukugoba uvume for HQB yakhe; and he seems to also love every minute of responding to her demands and bearing the brunt of her indiscriminate disdain. But these relationships are also some of the best I’ve seen in terms of longevity; futhi kanjalo, Ngike lusobala, ngokoMthetho elithile ubuhlobo impumelelo.
Ngakho yini singabugcina, njengoba ehloniphekile, Abesifazane esicatshangelwe sifunde HQBs ukuheha ugcine anjani ukuthi babonakala ube nenkinga edonsa nokugcina?
1) HQBs babe nomuzwa onamandla wokuzimela
HQBs know who they are and what they want. They know what they bring to the table and they are interesting because their interests are their own and they may be unique from their partner’s interests. It is boring to date yourself, futhi HQBs sesizicabangile lokhu.
2) HQBs babe umyalo umhlaba wabo
An HQB Kubonakala umyalo izwe elizungeze wakhe (noma ngabe ngempela noma cha). This quality provides a subconscious boost to her partner’s ego—if he has some control over making her happy, futhi enendawo okulawula “The World”, yena uyakwazi ukulawula “The World” by proxy. It’s that whole “uma A = B no B = C, ke A = C” thing. How does this translate into a useful tip? Decent, thoughtful people like you and me tend to not be very assertive with our actions and communication. Being assertive is much different than being aggressive, okuyinto M.O eyisisekelo. of HQB yakho ngokwesilinganiso futhi yilokho wakhe unika ukuthi ukugula ngomgunyathi, ukulawula tenuous of “The World”. But being more assertive will yield a greater command of your world, without the otherwise negative results of aggression. One example of this is simply to state what you want and why it makes sense from your perspective, sans the elulaza, intukuthelo Ukuzehlisa kaningi abaqashiwe ekwenzeni izicelo ezifanayo by HQBs.
3) The olokhu popular futhi kungase kutholakale, “Amadoda Like a Challenge”!
Bangaki ukuphola izihloko kanye zincwadi ufunda ukuthi bazinikele kwabanye version of the qiniso eliyisisekelo ukuthi amadoda bathanda banikelwe inselele, kanjalo bazizwa extra ekhethekile lapho bayakwazi anqobe kusho inselele? Kodwa, ngokwabo, will speak of finding the more elusive woman more attractive than the one who is an always-available open book. Sometimes elusiveness manifests as—how should I say—being a little stingy with expressing any kind of positive emotion or feedback (okuyilapho HQBs angene). Some men can’t resist the challenge of trying to illicit any kind of pleasant response from an HQB and so she becomes an object of great interest.
Wenza njani uku (aphinde, njengoba ehloniphekile, Owesifazane esicatshangelwe wena) vula ngokwakho khona more of a inselele? This can easily become the disingenuous game-playing that books like “The Rules” (Fein and Schneider) konke, which may not work for everyone and may leave you ill-feeling and confused about what to say and when. Kunalokho, build up your life to be genuinely full and exciting—making you a true challenge to nail down a date with. Not only will it check off that whole “kube inselele” Mnikeni lokho ungracefully lwezinceku HQBs (ukuthi amadoda ukuthola zikhanga kangaka), kodwa usuku lwakho ngeke nomuzwa wokuthi okuningi zenani uma uke wenza iphuzu ukuchitha isikhathi sakho esiyigugu ngokucacile naye.
4) No imidlalo
Kufika isikhathi lapho amadoda ayeke enanela imidlalo ukuqagela-ukuthi lokhu ngenxa kubo yokuba kancane more ovuthiwe, or the relationship itself having grown beyond its initial flirtation. Perhaps this tip can be at least partially credited with the whole “longevity” anomaly presented by HQB/Nice Guy relationships. HQBs say what they want, and when they want it. There are few games and intangibles in dealing with an HQB, and many men find this refreshing. This ties in elements from a couple of previous tips—in being straightforward with your communication (I.E. ngokuba nabazikhukhumezayo), futhi kucace kakhulu nalokho ufisa umlingani wakho uma ngeke kakade ukuhlinzeka it, uke owethulwe inselele angase ajabulele sandise inkonzo ukuhlangabezana ngoba uke waba kucace kangaka futhi ngeke yesabe imizamo yakhe iyoba ize.
Ngakho, Hearts-thatha Kind inhliziyo, futhi la macebiso ukuze inhliziyo-futhi mhlawumbe singaba bathi a share likhudlwana ezimakethe Nice Guy ngokwethu!