4 Tips for Date a First
Last updated: Dec. 27 2017 | 3 min akhri
taariikhaha First leeyihiin awood u leh in la beddelo nolosheena. Waxa aan aaminsanahay in haddii aad haatan isku diyaarineysa ka mid, Malaha waxaan kaliya sameeyey aad flip caloosha, iyo inaan raaligelin! The best way to enter into a first date is to relax, so forget the whole life-changing aspect. Halkii, aynu diiradda saaraan wada hadalka.
Jeer Sidaas badan, waxaan qabaa taariikhaha marka hore sida waraysiga shaqada, kaas oo sida xaqiiqada ah waxay dejisay gebi niyadda adag qabtaan oo ay ugu raaxeeysato, iyo dareen-celinta ugu badan ee wareysiga shaqada waa isku yaacsanaan, xaq u? When we’re nervous, mararka qaarkood aan iloobin qalab ugu muhiimsan sheekaysanayo oo sida qashin: dhagaysto.
Tani waxay u muuqan yaabaa in fudud, but it’s amazingly sparse in today’s world. We focus so much on preparing our witty remarks or perfect delivery that we neglect to fully tune in to the other person. I’ve heard a lot of great one-liners, oo waan jeclahay guys funny, laakiin waxa ku saabsan nin kuwaas oo dhab ahaantii maqlayaa waxa aad dhihi? Well, he’s a keeper. If he’s funny, Waxa kale oo, ka dibna aad si dhab ah Ghanna.
Ragga rabnaa in qof dumar ah oo wax dhagaysan, aad! I’m not talking about just hearing the words he says, although that is a critical first step. Actually listen to his words, uu ku oqoonsan, luqada jirka uu, and his actions. Women tend to pay attention to these things very well, laakiin on taariikhaha koowaad, waxaan marar badan is si diiradda saaray nafteenna (our dharka, timo, cuntada ee ilkaha, Yaa dalalka, iyo reapplications Bayjer) in aan iloobin sababta aan run ahaantii waxaa tahay qof.
Listening to your date is practically guaranteed to help the conversation flow. Bad listening skills, Nooca shaqsiyad A? Here’s a formula:
1. Su'aal: Haddii aad wadahadalo taariikhda ku saabsan waajibaadka shaqo ama dano gaar ah in aanad fahmin, ama amarada wax off ah menu aad waligaa maqashay, don’t feel silly asking questions. Ask away. People love to explain what they know a lot about, oo aad hada noqotay taariikhda galay khabiir ku ah, whether that’s on car engines or sushi. Who doesn’t want to feel like an expert? We tend to talk so much more about our passions, si aad u hesho in la ogaado qofka in hab macno leh.
2. Hako: Allowing your date time to finish his or her thoughts is pretty standard – and can prove difficult when you’re excited or nervous – but taking it one step farther can really provide information. One great way of doing this is taking a sip of water as the person is finishing a thought. It gives people a silence to fill, oo marar badan ayaad u helaysaa in aad iyaga wax badan oo ku saabsan ka inclusions garanaysaan.
3. Damqadaan: Waxaa laga yaabaa in iyada oo kaliya ku dhameysatay iyada degree, or perhaps he’s up for a promotion. Think of how you would feel in that position. You would probably want to talk about your favorite classes, waxa aad rabto in aad beerta ku, or the projects you’ve worked on to climb the ladder. Now you have great questions. This is an occasion where selfish thinking can prove very helpful in learning about someone else.
4. Ku celceli: Haddii aad tahay qof si ay khusayso oo walwalsan tahay in aad qabto broccoli xayiran ilkaha oo kaliya ma awoodaan in ay diiradda saaraan faahfaahinta uu shaqo halka dareen ku Daynanaa Iyagoo ee isafgaradka ee jeebkaaga, at the very least try to pick up on key words. Did he say data entry? Now you can ask questions about what kind of data, haddii ay tahay wax uu jecel yahay, or if he uses mass amounts of caffeine to survive it. But honestly, iloobin isafgaradka marka aad awooddo, waxa kaliya oo weyddiiyaan!
Dabcan, weydiinaya su'aalo ku saabsan taariikhda ee xayawaanka(s) is recommended. Not an animal lover? Check, fadlan. I say this in jest (iyo sort of dhab ah.)
Ku raaxayso taariikhda ugu horeeyay, nasato, oo aad leedahay maad! Just remember to listen. Your life may in fact change, laakiin Hey, cadaadiska lahayn.