Indlela Ukuthandana Nangona Andiphangeli
ukubuyekezwa: Jan. 27 2021 | 3 min ukufunda
Siphila kwihlabathi apho ngqesho iphezulu kumazwe amaninzi kangaka yonke ehlabathini lonke. And yet even with this quite universal problem in the lives of people there sadly still exists an ignorance and prejudice towards people who are out of work especially those who have been out of work for a while. Kwaye oku ikhethe ukuswela ukuqonda kunokuba yingxaki enkulu xa kuziwa kwihlabathi ukuthandana.
Impressing is a keyword in the world of dating after all and that is what we are all trying to do in one way or another on a date whether it is by using our natural wit, dressing a particular way, or talking about our employment history but the trouble with this in our current economic climate is that we will get people who think we are “Spongers” or “Lazy” because we may not have had the luck they have had in finding a job. Baya kuxoxa kunjalo ukuba wasebenza nzima ukufumana umsebenzi kodwa kuyatshiwo ngoko ukuba kuza phantsi ngoko ukuba amathamsanqa nokuba umqeshi ucinga ukuba umgqatswa ekunene okanye hayi. Akukho ngaphezulu ukuba. Nje imbono kumntu omnye.
Mna wayengaphangeli iminyaka emine kwimozulu yezoqoqosho ngqwabalala ukuba Ireland ngoku kwaye Ndoyika zokubalisa nabani Ndandiyithanda ukuba wayengaphangeli ngenxa yokoyika ukuba baza kucinga ntoni ngam. But despite our fears, there are people out there who do understand what the world is like. Ndikhumbula ukubalisa mfo ukuba ndamthanda ukuba wayesele abangaphangeliyo iminyaka emine kwaye ndibhe- ngenene nayo. Inyaniso, he never even batted an eyelid about it and that was one of the many reasons why I fell in love with him. Yena Wayenobubele, ukuqonda kwaye yena bagxekane.
Kanjalo, not all guys are like this and I wish for all men and women out there that they were. Ndadibana guy endiyithandayo mna wamva ethetha ngako abantu abangaphangeliyo ngendlela unflattering. Uyazi wena amagqabaza yesiqhelo snobbish ezifana "Sponger". Ngoko inyaniso ngoxa sithanda ukucinga abo entle ngenkangeleko kuya kusoloko non-ubagwebe akusoloko kunjalo. Kwaye kunzima xa oko kufanelekile zaphantse kunyibilika iijini zabo ezinqinileyo!
Ukuba kuwa eluthandweni nomntu kukho uluvo oluthile ndiyaba- abantu abangaphangeliyo kwaye wena okanye aye abangaqeshwanga kunokuba imeko entsonkothileyo kakhulu ukufumana uzithanda xa. Kodwa kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba uyazihlonela. Into yokuba wena okanye awunamsebenzi yinxalenye kuphela kuni. Oku aluchazi ukuba. Akukho ukusilela kuyo nje uyazi ukuba uzama ngandlela.
When I got my course it helped me to feel a lot more comfortable in situations where I would have to state what I do but when you have been a long time unemployed that feeling of will ask what I was doing before that does still haunt you and the truth is that it shouldn’t.
Kufuneka uye kuloo mhla intloko yakho kubanjwa eliphezulu. Ukuze abe umsebenzi. U nga nga. Ukuze baye ubomi bakhe bonke, usenokuba ukuba. Oku kuthetha nto. Nguye kuphela umntu kwaye nje indoda okanye umfazi kwaye unalo ilungelo kangangoko ukuba angathetha nantoni na kwaye ukuba benze njani (Ngaphandle kokuba uchubekile kunjalo!) kwaye bazive bebalulekile kanye njengoko esenza kuba ndithi kuni ukuba Tat kwaye Missus wena!