Xa Ngaba "Kanye Ixesha" Ukuze Phuthumani Ulwalamano Entsha?

ukubuyekezwa: Jan. 12 2021 | 3 min ukufunda

Nokwahlukana omelele. Nokuba ngubani eluphelisa ulwalamano okanye kutheni ophele, oko kuba lixesha elibuhlungu zilandelayo ekupheleni wothelelwano. Ngoko uzufumana kwakhona enye yaye ukuthandana ihlabathi liphela uve kunzima ekuqaleni.

Kukho amaxesha usenokuzibuza xa kufuneka uqalise uqalise ukuthandana kwakhona kwaye ngelishwa, akukho sicombululo kulula ukuba le ngxaki. Everyone deals with breakups at their own pace so there is no specific timeline to follow in regard to pursuing a new relationship after a breakup.

Ngoko ngaba ukulungele ukuqalisa ulwalamano olutsha, andisathethi athandane? Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa ukukunceda ukwazi ukuba ukwi endleleni:

Zinike ixesha

Mna nabanyisayo ukuba uza kulala-hlukana. You might want to curl up into the fetal position on your couch with a pint of ice cream and Netflix for the company for a while. Ukuthatha ixesha lokulila ekupheleni ulwalamano eqhelekileyo. Xa kuziwa neemvakalelo ezinzima ezifana ebuhlungu, kungathatha ixesha ndiyipholise imivumbo yakho. Ukumelana sahlukene ngendlela esempilweni noqolileyo yeyona ndlela ibhetele ukujongana kwaye phambili nobomi bakho.

Sebenza wena

Amaxesha amaninzi xa ubudlelwane kuphela ukuba ekhohlo bebuzana yonke. Yintoni ephosakeleyo? Ngaba ndim? Yintoni endiyenzileyo ngokwahlukileyo? Yeka ukohlwaya wena ulwalamano lwakho ayiphumelelanga kwaye bayeke ukudlala umdlalo ityala, njengoko na oza kukwenza ukuba uzive ngcono na. Ukwamkela ukuba ubudlelwane azizange zihambe hayi besazilazila phezu solayo kuya kukunceda ukuba uqhubeke. Ukufunda kwiimpazamo yeyona ndlela ibhetele uyazi into oyifunayo ubudlelwane kwaye yintoni na.

Thatha eli xesha ukuzama ukuphucula ngokwakho kwaye bazame izinto ezintsha. Wakha ikuba ube nomdla kodwa wazama? Now is a perfect time! Thabatha ikhosi ulwimi, volunteer at a charity event, or even run a marathon. Iinketho ezininzi. Try something new that makes you happy and just focus on yourself.

Sika yonke amaqhina ngokuthandana ex yakho

Abanye abantu bayakwazi ukuba ahlale ngabahlobo emva kokuba bohlukene, kodwa ukuba ufumanisa ukuba nje awukwazi ukufumana phezu kwabo ugcine uzama ukwenza izinto, ungafuna ukugawula bonke ukunxibelelana nabo, nokuba yinto nje yexeshana. Kunzima ukudlulela xa uqhubeka uzinikela ithemba lobuxoki ukuba kukho ithuba ababenawo ubudlelwane. Kukho ixesha kamva ezantsi endleleni ukuba babe ngabahlobo, kodwa xa Ukwahlukana nangoku isentsha engqondweni yakho, kusenokuba nje lula ukugcina umgama wakho.

Ziphephe buya soyikekayo

Kwinguqulo ubudlelwane buya ngumkhwa ekufuneka kwaphulwa ngokukhawuleza. ngamana uzixelela ulwalamano akayi kuba buya eqhelekileyo, kodwa ukuze zihambe ngaloo ndlela kakade, nangona iinzame. Ukuba ungaqhuba ube baxhalatyiswa kulwalamano lwakho lokugqibela zonke iimvakalelo enzima inxaxheba, ngoko ube edidayo ngokuzisa ezo mvakalelo ubudala ibe nolwalamano olutsha.

Xa kufikwa zingahambi flings (i.e. neentlobano zesini kunye namaqabane random, abahlobo abanokuxhamla, njalo), kufuneka nje iphetshwe. A abangama ngokukhawuleza kunokubonakala ngathi asiyongcamango ilungileyo, kodwa nje. Ukusebenzisa nomntu ongathandani naye njengendlela uziva ngaphantsi ndililolo emva kokuba nahlukene ithande ukuba isiphumo esahlukileyo; wena ngaphezu kusenokwenzeka uya kuziva kubi kakhulu emva yonke kuthiwa kwaye kwenziwa. Zisindise ukuzifaka engaphezulu niwele ngolwalamano buya / flings.

Uzive ukulungele ukuya phambili ngokwenene

Xa akasayi ecaphukile iimvakalelo uthando kunye nelahleko ukuya ex yakho, baye bayeka obsessively lopelo page yabo Facebook (musa ukwenza ngathi wena a), kwaye ziyamiseka uzinikela nethemba uxolelaniso nibe senilungile ukuya phambili.

Musa ukuphulaphula kwabo ngeenxa nina kukuxelela xa kufuneka uqalise ukuthandana kwakhona ngenxa yokuba isigqibo ekugqibeleni phezulu kuwe. Xa ekugqibeleni uzive ukulungele ukuhlangabezana umntu omtsha xa kufuneka uqalise ukuthandana. This is your life, emveni kwakho konke, so don’t try to appease your friends and family by hopping back into the dating game when you are just not ready yet.


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