Maxaad Bees Ragga Love aan waxgarashada lahayn Queen
Tani waa goobta shukaansi ah, iyo goobta shukaansi ee xayawaanka ku caashaqay ah, aan ka yarayn. So can we talk for just a minute about female dogs? And I mean “eeyaha dumar ah” in dareenka ugu euphemistic, sida aan la xidhiidho canines, but their human species counterpart that gives female dogs their bad name. But because this is a SFW site and in an effort to give back to female dogs the respect and love they deserve—let’s talk instead about Heartless Queen Bees (ama HQBs) iyo nimankii u jeclahay, iyo waxa uu jiro si ay u bartaan iyaga ka si ay u xiriirka noo gaar fiican.
Time iyo mar mar, Waxaan ahaa markhaati u gacan koowaad ah in arrin ku saabsan “nin fiican jecel yahay HQB”. It’s really a marvel to behold—a caring, nooc kaakala, nin edeb leh iyo ajiir wanaagsan oo u muuqata in ay mar walba noqon in jagada loo foorarsado ka badan gadaal uu HQB; and he seems to also love every minute of responding to her demands and bearing the brunt of her indiscriminate disdain. But these relationships are also some of the best I’ve seen in terms of longevity; iyo si aad u, Waxaan ogaan, marka la eego degree qaar ka mid ah guulaha xiriir.
Sidaas waxa aan awoodno, sida hufan, Haweenka fikir ka bartaan HQBs in uu soo jiito oo sii nooca ragga ay u muuqda inay wax dhib ah uma soo jiitay iyo haysashada?
1) HQBs waxay leeyihiin dareen xoogan oo leh aqoonsi
HQBs know who they are and what they want. They know what they bring to the table and they are interesting because their interests are their own and they may be unique from their partner’s interests. It is boring to date yourself, iyo HQBs ayaa is tusay tan.
2) HQBs leeyihiin amarka ay aduunka
HQB An u muuqataa in ay amarka dunida ka hareereeya (hadday run ahaantii ama ma). This quality provides a subconscious boost to her partner’s ego—if he has some control over making her happy, waxayna Leedahay gacanta ku “Adduunka”, waxa uu leeyahay control of “Adduunka” by proxy. It’s that whole “haddii A = B iyo B = C, markaas A = C” thing. How does this translate into a useful tip? Decent, thoughtful people like you and me tend to not be very assertive with our actions and communication. Being assertive is much different than being aggressive, taas oo M.O aasaasiga ah. ee HQB celcelis ahaan iyo waa waxa uu siinayaa in xanuunsan-ka heleen, control aan xasiloonayn ee “Adduunka”. But being more assertive will yield a greater command of your world, without the otherwise negative results of aggression. One example of this is simply to state what you want and why it makes sense from your perspective, sans la yaso ee, xanaaq saxsanaanta, inta badan oo shaqeeya samaynta codsiyada la mid ah oo ay HQBs.
3) Mar walba oo caan ah oo la xaqiijiyay, “Ragga Like Challenge ah”!
Sidee articles shukaansi badan iyo buugaag ay leeyihiin waxaad ka akhrisan in u heelan yihiin inay version qaar ka mid ah fikrad asaasiga ah in ragga jecel yihiin in ay la soo bandhigay caqabado hor leh, si ay u dareemaan dheeri oo gaar ah marka ay awoodaan inay qabsadaan, tartan sheegay in ay yihiin? Laakiin, isu, will speak of finding the more elusive woman more attractive than the one who is an always-available open book. Sometimes elusiveness manifests as—how should I say—being a little stingy with expressing any kind of positive emotion or feedback (taas oo ah meesha HQBs soo galo). Some men can’t resist the challenge of trying to illicit any kind of pleasant response from an HQB and so she becomes an object of great interest.
Sidee aadan (mar kale, sida hufan ee, Haweeney maskax aad tahay) jeesatoba galay isagoo mid xiiso badan? This can easily become the disingenuous game-playing that books like “Xeerarka” (Fein iyo Schneider) dhan, which may not work for everyone and may leave you ill-feeling and confused about what to say and when. Halkii, build up your life to be genuinely full and exciting—making you a true challenge to nail down a date with. Not only will it check off that whole “noqon caqabad ku ah” Nuguma habboona in si ungracefully lagu tilmaamay HQBs (in ragga aad si soo jiidasho), laakiin taariikhda dareemi doono in ka badan ayaa lagu qiimeeyaa marka aad sameeyey dhibic si ay waqti si cad u qiimo badan u huri isaga la.
4) Kulan No
Waxaa marba marka ka ragga joojiyo jawaabaya murmin xaalkooda kulan-haddii tani ay tahay oo ay xambaarsan kuwa ka yar a qaan isagoo, or the relationship itself having grown beyond its initial flirtation. Perhaps this tip can be at least partially credited with the whole “longevity” anomaly presented by HQB/Nice Guy relationships. HQBs say what they want, and when they want it. There are few games and intangibles in dealing with an HQB, and many men find this refreshing. This ties in elements from a couple of previous tips—in being straightforward with your communication (I.E. isagoo xaqaagii), oo aad u cad waxa aad dooni ka lamaanahaaga haddii uusan hore u bixinta, aad soo bandhigay ah tartan in uu u badan tahay raaxaysan doonaa galinayso in ay la kulmaan, sababtoo ah waxaa suurowda inaad si cad oo uu dadaalka uu noqon doonaa in aan waxtar lahayn ma cabsan doono,.
Sidaas, Kind Hearts-qaadan wadnaha, iyo taladan si wadnaha-iyo malaha aan sheegan kartaa qayb yar oo ka weyn oo ka mid ah suuqa Nice Guy nafteena!