What Women Really Want?
Last updated: Apr. 25 2021 | 5 min read
If you ask a woman what she wants, she will reply by attempting to describe what she wants in a man. And she usually has trouble describing that. She couldn’t even begin to describe what it is she really needs.
When you carefully observe women in relationships, you find that some relationships are more fulfilling and successful than others. For the successful relationships, the woman is getting all the things that she needs. In the relationships that are not fulfilling, one or more of the woman’s needs are not being met.
She Knows When Something Crucial Is Missing
When you carefully observe women who went outside of their marriage, you find that they are obtaining that which they were missing in their marriage. For example, if the sex is boring, she will get an exciting lover. If the sex in the marriage is acceptable, but she feels that she is not being treated with respect, she will find a man who will treat her with respect. When women go outside of their marriage, they are looking to have one or more of their needs met. For some women, if it takes two different men in order to get all her needs met, she’ll do it.
Interestingly, in most cases, the women did not seek to go outside of their marriage. They only knew that they were unhappy. They became susceptible to advances from other men and then chose to go with it.
For most women, if she is not getting all her needs met, she will completely leave the man and look for a man who can fulfill her. But she doesn’t know that it’s because she’s not getting all her needs met, she only knows what things about the relationship she doesn’t like.
Women may not know it, and most of them certainly cannot articulate it, but women need four things in order to be fulfilled.
There Are Four Important Things A Woman Needs
First, she needs to feel appreciated for the unique individual that she is. She needs to feel special, unlike any other woman. And she needs to know that her man supports her in her endeavors.
Second, she needs to feel that deep intimate emotional connection. She needs to have that emotional intimacy with her man. It’s a connection she shares only with him.
Third, she needs to feel like a woman. She needs to feel beautiful, sexy, and feminine. She needs to enjoy all those things that comes with being a woman.
And finally, she needs hot passionate sex. She needs to be seduced, enticed, teased, and satisfied, over and over again. She needs to experience new things, in new ways, including fantasies and roles. It makes her feel alive.
A woman is most fulfilled when she is with a man that she has everything with, when she is with a man that she is wildly crazy about. But that rarely happens. Usually, one or more things are missing.
Examples Of Various Men In A Woman’s Life
Let’s look at the various men that a woman has been with in her life. The various men met some of the needs, but not all of them.
The Bad Boy
For example, let’s take the all famous classic bad boy. The bad boy gives her exciting sex. And because he is very masculine, he makes her feel sexy. But he is a self absorbed jerk who cheats on her. She does not feel appreciated, and she probably is unable to feel any emotional connection. She often becomes addicted to him because the sex is so good and she feels so very sexual. She will try in vain to tame him, but it is fruitless. In an emotional breakup, she finally leaves him for good. At least the high self esteem woman finally leaves him for good.
The Nice Guy
Then there’s the classic wimp nice guy. He makes her feel appreciated, and he is able to establish an emotional connection with her. Unfortunately though, he’s boring, or he’s not masculine, so she doesn’t feel sexy and doesn’t feel turned on about sex. She’d love to marry him, because he’d be perfect for a family, but for some reason she keeps delaying the engagement. It’s because he doesn’t make her feel like a sexual creature.
The Emotionally Unavailable Guy
The closest she might get to the ideal relationship is the emotionally unavailable guy. He’s not a wimp, and he’s not a jerk. He may be masculine and give her good sex. He may be a gentleman and make her feel very appreciated. But there’s one important thing missing. He’s not emotionally available. She never feels emotionally connected to him. This is probably the biggest complaint women have. She found the ideal guy in all respects, but damn it, he’s not emotionally available. She tries over and over to get him to open up to her, but it never happens. Women are emotional creatures, and they need it, so she eventually leaves.
The Gay Friend
There are other men in her life. There’s her gay friend. She loves hanging out with him because he makes her feel sexy and he really makes her feel appreciated. She has a lot in common with him, but damn it, he’s gay, and thus not an option.
The Mysterious Lover
And then there’s the occasional mysterious lover. For many reasons she’d never ever consider him seriously for anything, but damn, the sex is good. Once every few months, when she is bored with how things are going for her, she’ll call him up and go over for one thing, and one thing only. For the sex. And then she leaves hoping she will soon find the ideal man.
The Married Man
And finally, as one last example, there’s the married man. Only low self esteem women allow themselves to become a mistress, or in other words, a woman who wants what she can’t have. He gives her exciting sex, he makes her feel sexy, they share a deep emotional connection. But he won’t leave his wife. So she doesn’t feel special. And because she is low self esteem, it is very difficult for her to leave.
But let’s get back to high self esteem women.
If Only She Could Have All That She Needs
So, those were examples of men in her life. As you can see, one or more of her needs are not being met in each example. But imagine if she could meet a man who easily met all of her needs. A man who made her feel appreciated. A man who evoked a deep powerful emotional connection with her. A man who makes her feel feminine and womanly and sexy. A man who gives her hot passionate sex. Now that would be awesome.
That is the Masterful Lover. He is strong yet gentle. Honest yet tactful. Masculine yet emotional. Decisive yet flexible. Goal oriented yet spontaneous. Driven yet giving. Dominant yet thoughtful. And gives her wild screaming orgasms.
It’s the kind of thing women dream about.
It’s been the focus of my research for the last 15 years, and has been documented on my book, “David Shade’s Masterful Lover Manual.” You can read more about the book on my website.
Give women incredible pleasure,